Godly Friends & Family
A while back I decided to start reading the New Testament again. I have found that when I re-read the Bible I get something new out of it every time. Preachers and teachers have always said that we could read the Bible over and over, and learn something new each time. The reason that is possible, they would say, is because our lives are constantly changing. Or, "things" in our lives are constantly changing.
A few weeks ago the following scriptures jumped off the page at me, not literally of course, but they certainly caught my attention.
"Don't you see that whatever enters the mouth goes into the stomach and then out of the body? But the things that come out of the mouth come from the heart, and these make a man 'unclean.'" ~ Matthew 15:17-18
It really made me think, and the first thing that came to my mind was something a good friend of mine said to me. As soon as the comment came from their mouth I think I realized it had come from the heart. I was hurt.
More recently a situation arose with the same friend. At first I was just irritated, kind of put out, and not really sure if we are as good of friends as what we claim to be. All of this made me curious as to what the Bible says about friends/friendship. I mean, let's face it, the Bible is THE rule book of life. When we play a new board game and we are confused, or don't know what we are doing we read the rules. So, I went to THE rules.
I found tons of scriptures regarding friends and friendships. Here are a few of them. Please keep in mind that I was studying out of two different Bibles during this time, so some of these are NKJV* and some are NIV**.
Proverbs 12:26 (NKJV)
The righteous should choose his friends carefully, for the way of the wicked leads them astray.
Basically, those who walk in opposition to God's word can cause you to go astray. (I read this somewhere a long time ago and honestly can't remember who said it.)
1 Corinthians 15:33 (NIV)
Do not be misled: "Bad company corrupts good character."
Isn't it funny how our parents would say that you are known by the company that you keep. "People will think you are just like them." I heard that from my parents and my grandparents. Hmmm, maybe they were onto something. :)
Proverbs 13:20 (NKJV)
He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will be destroyed.
This one certainly made me think about the different relationships I have with my family and friends. I include my family here because I am friends with most of my family members. Aren't most of us? Friends with our family, I mean.
As I sat there holding my Bible I made a mental list of my "Godly Friends" and my "Not-So Godly Friends." I thought about each person and their good traits, and not-so good traits. The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly.
Then something hit me, and hit me HARD.
We are supposed to apply the Bible to our own lives, not others.
There I was sitting there practically judging them, putting them into categories. Not good.
As a friend, I am supposed to be encouraging. It says so in the Bible.
Ephesians 4:29
A godly friend is one that encourages others.
It is much easier to criticize people than to encourage them. Have you noticed that? I mean, seriously, how hard is it to find something nice to say, and to encourage.
I've gone back through my recent readings and applied them to myself instead of envisioning my friend. I know that I need to work on being a better godly friend myself, an encourager if you will. Not only do I need to be an encourager, I need to encourage them to be godly friends too. (This is my first step.) Hopefully, I can save this friendship, because I don't want to be a companion of fools.
Let's all try to build people up rather than knock them down.
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NKJV - New King James Version
NIV - New International Version
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